09 Sep 3 Keys to Decoding Clarity
In order to possess what you do not possess, you must go the way of dispossession. In order to arrive at what you are not, you must go through the way in which you are not. ~ T. S. Eliot
Clarity does not seem like it should need clarifying, right? But it’s not the concept that needs explanation – it’s the ‘how to do it’ part that trips people up. So, just to make sure we’re clear here (pun intended), what is clarity?
To have clarity in one’s life means having a sense of ease, of knowing that all is handled and in its place, the certainty of being able to easily access what comes next, the comfort of feeling like there’s ‘enough’ (energy, time, resources, etc.) to live a happy life.
Clarity is organization, both physically and emotionally; it is that which allows you to move forward in your life easily and effortlessly.
When you have blinding moments of clarity, you have the answers you were searching for and can take the best action to get to where you finally know you want to go.
Clarity allows you to understand yourself and your relationship with your world (which is really everything you are creating).
The power to create is your clarity. Clarity is your creation in motion.
When you are not clear in some area of your life, it shows up in the results. You don’t feel good, your relationships are sticky, your career or business does not produce the expected results, you aren’t happy, projects go unfinished… in other words, not having clarity is costing you life force energy on some level.
The process of getting clear can be uncomfortable – that’s good. Growth happens when you outgrow where you were; just like a pair of shoes that are too small, the clarity you had at one time and that does not serve you anymore can ‘pinch’ in the tight spots.
Clarity can reveal things you have been running away from or that you just don’t want to look at because then you would have to handle it differently.
Handling your life with clarity means you have to show up differently, which is a new state of being or way of living, and be accountable to yourself for the results you are living.
Which brings us back to… clarity is the act of creation through conscious change. Where do you want to create something different in your life?
The answer to that question is a clue as to where you are missing clarity.
Three Things You Can Do Today:
1. Identify and release what you are not.
As in, if you have clutter in your house, or are holding on to clothes, books, mementos of long-gone or even negative relationships, get rid of it. If you have friends who aren’t treating you the way you want to be treated, decide whether to repair or replace. Whatever is in your life but does not reflect clearly who you are now is something that needs to be released. By creating ‘space’, you create clarity.
2. Do not look for yourself where you are not.
You are human so, to some degree, it is unavoidable that you will look to your community, social circle or others to help you learn, get approval or validate your thought process and choices.
However, when you look to those external sources, you are giving away your power. You are looking for yourself where you are not, which can only lead to more confusion over the long run. To stay clear, stay focused on what you know. If you need additional information, go to the cleanest source* you can find “out there” and bring that back to your own personal source of clarity “in here”.
* ‘Cleanest source’ means without distortion, opinion or the others’ personal interests as a priority.
3. Set systems in place.
Consider virtually anything you do and look at how you can make it easier with a system. From washing dishes (soak, scrub, rinse, dry) to handling your voicemails (check them, listen, write down on the message pad, handle immediately, etc.), you can put something together that allows you to minimize your energy on activities or functions that you do repeatedly which frees up more energy to create something new. Having more energy allows you to focus on having greater clarity.
So, now that you know clarity is not a mystery, but rather the essential part of the change creation process, you are responsible for it in your life from this point forward.
(And if you are still unclear about why this matters or how it’s affecting your life, you and I need to have a conversation!)
